Nov 12, 2017 | Keith Crosby
Family Matters: Parenting for Eternity
Proposition: Three characteristics of spiritual parenting so that you might have a parent-child relationship that lasts throughout eternity.
- Parenting is Intentional (Proverbs 22:6)
- Parenting is Continual (Deuteronomy 6:4-9)
- Parenting is Visual (Nehemiah 8:1-3, 13)
Application: Make it your business to make God their business.
- Pick-up the hand out in the lobby on worshipping as a family.
- Sign up for parenting electives.
- Sign up for marriage elective.
- Ask yourself if you are doing all you really can to point your children to Jesus and reorder your priorities as necessary.
- Does the fact that there are no guarantees diminish the need for parenting for eternity? Why or why not?
- Deuteronomy 6:4-9 gives us insight into “teachable moments” and the idea of “quality time,” as a parent. Discuss the concept that one can have no “quality time” with their children if there is no “quantity time.” Some say that Deuteronomy 6:4-9 alludes to quantity time. Why do you think people say this?
- Discuss finding opportunities to teach them when they are lying down, rising, up, or on the road. As you travel through life with your children talk about potential situations to give them biblical teachings (applying Scripture). Avoid mere moralizations (how to be a good boy or good girl), instead applying biblical truth to a situation.
- What’s wrong with this statement and mindset in light of the Proverbs 22:6 and Deuteronomy 6:4-9): “Look my kids have been in class all week, they need a break? I don’t think missing church this week is that big a deal?” Consider this parallel analogy, “look my kids have been practicing hard in sports… I think they can afford to skip this game.” Or, “look, my kids have been practicing hard and rehearsing diligently for this musical recital, I think with all that practice we can skip the recital and take a little time off.” Would you consider this action: “look my kids went to church and youth group this week---AND Sunday School… I think they can skip a few days of class this week at primary school, middle school, high school, or university.” Talk about these mindsets and spiritual warfare.
Alternative to Questions Above. Read Nehemiah 8:1-13 (maybe have people read a few verses each) and then discuss the importance of having children watch their parents worship with one mind, listening attentively, through the whole of the service. Discuss the reality that worship should be something they see their parents look forward to, prioritize, and embrace. Talk about undistracted, whole-hearted, grateful worship and what such an example sets for the children---what kind of message that sends.
Resource: Your Child’s Profession of Faith, by Dennis Gundersen
Simple messages for complex relationships.